Skye, I apologize for somehow missing your whole thoughtful response here. I don't know how I missed it.

Yes, exactly, that is what I was trying to do:

"illustrate another side of the Susan" that I personally know.

Thank you for saying:

"I will thank you for providing this look. More knowledge about a situation is good. Perhaps always good, although so far, no one else seems to think so. Everyone has sins to atone for. Some have made their sins excruciatingly public, and have received the excoriation that now seems de rigeur for such transgressions. Like Susan.This essay is a good first step in unpacking the privilege you may not know you enjoy...."

Yes, Skye. I am unpacking the privilege I did not realize I enjoy. At first I felt attacked by the responses to the essay, and misunderstood, and some people I love even wanted me to take down the essay. But I believe it can advance this very fired-up conversation.

I like that you challenged me with this:

"I would like to see more of what you learn from knowing Susan, knowing what she did, and what understanding you’ve gained by trying to learn about privilege in America. If you like, I’d be willing to help."

Thank you for that invitation.

Sincerely, Alice