Hi Claysin3. I have not invited a Black woman to join our book group but I happily would. We are a group of seven women from our block. Some of our newer neighbors are Black, and while we are friendly, our book group started years ago--it is not exclusive unless any group of friends gathering is exclusive.

Yet if I did, someone might say, "So you have a Black friend? A biracial child? A Black woman in your book group? Doesn't matter." I think I read words along those lines (not the book group reference) in that piece by Marley K. So, should that question be asked?

You are assuming that I am white-bread White and I am not, so that's not fair at all. And if i tell you that I have Black friends, which I do, and that my kids have Black friends, which they do, wouldn't Marley K say it doesn't matter? That I as a White person should shut up and sit down?

P.S. I said I'm "kinda old," but that doesn't mean you should call me an old lady, thank you.

Actually, this whole discussion is getting closer to the reason why I wrote "The other side of Karen" in the first place. You are making assumptions about me as a White woman, the way I thought other people were making total all-over blanket assumptions about Susan, when they don't even know her.

Thank you for sharing this link: https://whitebirdclinic.org/what-is-cahoots/. I will check it out.

Best, Alice


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