Ada, thank you for the insights. You said of your father, whom you called "a nice man":
"However I would never tell someone he wronged that he is a good person because he was good to others and mean to them. Someone can be good to you and horrible to others. They can be kind to you and racist to their neighbors. I would not tell someone my father insulted that he's really nice and even gives money to people in need because it's irrelevant to the reality that HE has created with them. It's also very unhelpful, out of touch and bordering on arrogance."
With all due respect, I hardly think my opinion is arrogant.
I had a strong gut reaction when I saw the video that went viral...i did not think...this is White against Black! Let me defend the White side! No, no. I did not think that at all.
I considered the behavior of both parties in the video. I felt upset and unsettled and like it was hard to recognize the Susan I knew in the behavior amplified in this situation.
There are two sides to every story, and i wanted to add more details to Susan's side.
Also, God only knows, all of us have had dark, terrible, regrettable moments. I have had them....i wish I could change them....I am wiser now.